forgive me for my leave of absence. i have been busy with work, spending spring break in Boise, more work, paying off for POLAND!, and more adulting.
but i have thought of a little something that i wanted to share with each and everyone of you that kind of influenced me to be a heck of a lot kinder to myself and to others.
on my 4.5 hour drive from Los Anchorage to Valdez, my mom handed me a cd and told me to listen to the talk that was contained on it: God Knows You're Amazing by Laurel Christensen. i figured why the heck not? and something stuck with me that i've been itching to share with you.
in the beginning of her talk, Laurel Christensen mentioned how she has a group of friends that love to hang out every chance they get, and every time they get together, they are allowed to ask for a "standing ovation". meaning that everyone else tells that person what they admire most about them. and that person can ask for it without any questions asked, and they can ask for that ovation whether they have had a bad day or a good day. they just want/need to hear something good about them.
seems kind of vain right?
however, in this world i feel we are too judgy on ourselves (and yes i just made up the word "judgy") and too judgy towards others in a negative way.
for instance what do you see when you look at this photo?
the comments that were made via Facebook:
61 people either loved or liked it
"How could you look so much like your dad, yet so cute and girly."
"What a beautiful woman."
"Too cute for words."
before i read those comments i instantly thought:
"i hate that the camera adds 10 lbs."
"look at my disgusting hair!" (half natural, half dyed if you couldn't tell)
"what in the world am i doing with my thumbs???"
then i noticed the comments people gave me and i emotionally kicked myself in the butt. i was focused too much on judging myself than i did crediting myself.
and that is what i feel that we as humans do on a daily basis.
we judge ourselves.
sometimes too harshly in my opinion.
we judge that we don't look handsome or beautiful, we sometimes look at our friends, family, even strangers and silently judge them in a negative sense from time to time instead of judging them in a positive way.
so next time you look at yourself in the mirror, or looking at a photo of you, give yourself the credit that you deserve. you women are beautiful. you men are handsome. there is something uniquely extraordinary about you that no one else has. start spreading the goodness with your words
and when you are with your group of friends, tell them something good about them. they need to hear it once in a while.
Albus Percival Wulfric Brian Dumbledore once said
"Words are, in my not-so-humble opinion,
our most inexhaustable source of magic,
capable of inflicting injury
and remedying it."
we need to stop inflicting ourselves and others. instead let us buoy ourselves and others up by saying remarkable, wonderful things...by giving and receiving standing ovations. trust me, you'll be surprised by how amazing you and everyone else around you are.